Saturday, March 08, 2008

I-guide to training GFs

'Fixing' bad GF-behavior is not optional.

(Having the integrity to never accept bullshit, is the fundament of masculinity itself.)


Part 1 - Understanding GF-misbehavior

Children are programmed by evolution to seek INFLUENCE over, and ATTENTION from adults.

(In nature, majority of children die.. adults are KEY to survival.)

Girls have the EXACT SAME relationship to men, as child to adult.

(They are programmed to NEVER be satisfied when it comes to INFLUENCE and ATTENTION. Sidenote: This is why they need to seek more from THE NEXT man when they have gotten EVERYTHING from current BF).

Think about the tantrums, moodiness, boredom etc that girls display.. very CHILD LIKE, no?


Part 2 - solution.

FEAR!

(Exact like with children, you cant solve with reasoning/talk, friendliness, rewards/being nice etc etc. Just like child, girl is PROGRAMMED to keep doing it as long as its SAFE.. remember: motivation is SURVIVAL.)

The tools/fears at your disposal are:
-Long freeze outs (fear of losing current level of attention/influence over you).
-Mini/semi freezeouts (same fear as above).
-Attention towards other girls (same as above).
-Sudden anger (fear of violence - direct survival threat.. on the flipside, it REWARDS her need for attention, so use SPARINGLY).

This is the COMPLETE breakdown which I have posted several times before. Fear is only solution that works. If this troubles your inner nice-guy, I cant help you. I WISH there was a more positive solution but there IS NOT.

(All the more nice solutions are equivalent of peeing into pants when outside in snow and freezing real bad.)

(There is a brighter side though, but only when she does something REALLY NICE. THIS is when you give her the ATTENTION she craves, and show how much she INFLUENCES you by doing all the 'in love' stuff to her.)

4 comments:

I'm a complete MELT said...

""""you cant solve with reasoning/talk, friendliness, rewards/being nice etc etc. Just like child, girl is PROGRAMMED to keep doing it as long as its SAFE.. remember: motivation is SURVIVAL.)"""

J, can you just clarify what you mean by "SAFE". Obviously because if its not "safe" (whatever you actually mean by that) she will stop all the silly games, right?

ijjjji said...

Safe = nothing to fear. No likely negative consequence.

Unknown said...

ijjjji, can you please elaborate on two things:

1. what do you mean by showing sudden anger? examples please?

2. you say reward her when she does "something really nice"...can you please explain more with examples?

also, can you please touch on how/when to take back the rewarding for her nice behavior? what I mean is: after you reward her, how quickly should you then pull back the attention?

ijjjji said...

1 - Abruptly walking out or talking in full anger tone.
2 - Depends, but less is more. Say what you have to say or kiss her or similar, then go back to what you were doing. On a side note - pay attention to what lead up to your GF being nice to you. Particularly, that day and the day before.