Monday, September 30, 2013



'Faking' as described in 'The Art of Mingling'

This is excerpt from a book 'The Art Of Mingling' (1992, Jeanne Martinet). To spare you the fluff, I boldified the stuff I found interesting/useful. It really intrigues me that this woman thinks very similar to how I think..


Chapter One

Overcoming Minglephobia

HOW TO FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT

OK. There you are, standing alone, frozen against the wall in a room full of people. You've just arrived, and you've already done the two things that made you look busy: taken off your coat and said hello to your host or hostess, who has long since dashed off to greet another guest or check on the ice supply. What now?

Number one (and numbers two and three): Don't panic. You are not the only person feeling this way. Many people descend into a state of existential angst when faced with tough mingling situations. Some people deal with their fears by withdrawing into a corner; others become nervous or clumsy. Some giggle; some play with their hair or fiddle with their clothing. In fact, minglephobia can cause people to drink too much, eat too much, smoke too much, or—and this can really be dangerous—even dance too much! So it's important not to give in to your fears, especially in those first few crucial moments. Just try to relax and
say to yourself, I'm going to fake it till I make it.

Believe it or not, this simple affirmation is an effective, almost magical, way to transform party terror into a positive outlook. Remember when you were little and you used to tell ghost stories to scare yourself and by the end of the night you really did believe in ghosts? It was amazingly easy to fool yourself when you were a child, and it's just as easy to fool yourself as an adult. Just pretend to be happy to be wherever you are; make believe you are confident; simulate self-assurance—even for ten minutes—and an amazing thing will start to happen:
You'll actually begin to feel that way, partially because of the response you receive from other people.

Let's face it. Very few people want to talk to someone who is showing outward signs of fear or depression. (Unless it's a Goth or fetish party. But that's a whole other book.) So even though you will probably have at least some apprehension when approaching people you know little or not at all, you must practice putting it aside.
Just as if you had to walk out on a stage. Deep breath. Curtain up. Before you know it, you'll discover you're no longer faking it, that your fears have disappeared and you are actually having a good time!

Fake It Till You Make It is an attitude aid rather than a specific technique, but it's important to remember it as you begin to mingle, because it is the basis of all the opening gambits and entry lines. Your mind-set as you enter the fray is extremely important. For the first few minutes of a difficult mingling experience, what you project is more important than what you may be feeling.

FOUR SURVIVAL FANTASIES FOR
THE TRULY TERRIFIED

/SNIP/

Pros and Icons

This technique is kind of the Invisible Man fantasy in reverse. It may seem drastic to some people, but I find it so effective, as well as so much fun, that I highly recommend it, especially for the more adventuresome. Don't forget, these fantasy techniques are specifically designed for initial courage; to get you to take that first step, to transform you from a wallflower with an inferiority complex into a participating, mingling member of the party. So try this:
Be someone else, just for a little while.This might seem a bit radical, especially since other people have probably been telling you for decades to "be yourself," but if you're standing there at the party terrified, halfway wishing you were somebody else anyway, then why not just do it? The person that you are is giving you a lot of trouble right now and is obviously not the least bit happy about where he is. So pick a favorite celebrity, someone whose poise, posture, or personality you particularly admire, and then . . . slip into him or her. When done right, this technique works much more quickly than the other survival fantasies, because of the mingling power most people attribute to stars—power that instantly becomes accessible to you.

/SNIP/

Some favorite Pros and Icons for women: Ingrid Bergman, Campbell Brown, Katie Couric, Bette Davis, Kirsten Dunst, Goldie Hawn, Katharine Hepburn, Scarlett Johansson, Grace Kelly, Vivien Leigh (as Scarlett, of course), Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Lopez, Madonna, Marilyn Monroe, Jackie Onassis, Sarah Jessica Parker, Julia Roberts, Diane Sawyer, Gertrude Stein, Venus Williams, Oprah Winfrey, and Catherine Zeta-Jones.
Men can use Antonio Banderas, Humphrey Bogart, Tom Brady, Pierce Brosnan, George Clooney, Johnny Depp, Leonardo DiCaprio, Harrison Ford, Jamie Foxx, Bill Gates, Cary Grant, LeBron James, Derek Jeter, Larry King, David Niven, Jack Nicholson, Brad Pitt, Jerry Seinfeld, Jon Stewart, Denzel Washington, or even Prince William. Please note: It's best not to use people who are charismatic but may actually be frightening (such as the Rock, Michael Jackson, Christopher Walken, or Janice Dickinson).

/SNIP/

Copyright © 2006 by Jeanne Martinet. All rights reserved.
Source

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Monday, May 07, 2012

'Nutrition' - the Epic Fail

"Eat more vegetables and lean protein sources. Exercise more."

The widely accepted advice of nutrition literature and experts, since early 1900.

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Vegetables:
-indigestible
-create friction and gas
-reduces nutritional value of other foods by sucking up fluids

Lean proteins:
-digest slowly
-heavy work for liver and kidneys
-lack important fat-solvable nutrients

Exercise:
-increases spending rate of most nutrients
-increases hunger
-wears down tissues that need plentiful nutrients to recover

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While none of the above (except vegetables to some degree) are directly harmful on their own, the combining of the 3, while trying to deny the body its best source for energy and nutrients (fat), is a recipe for total disaster.

Some of the likely outcomes are:
-uncontrolable cravings and weight gain
-malnourishment related problems (fatigue, depression)
-lowered immune function (infectious disease, colds)
-back pains, chronic joint/tendon pains, frequent tears etc
-intestine break down (pains, IBS, crohns, ulcer)

(And thats only the effects I have experienced personally. Im sure there is more.)

Monday, April 30, 2012

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Carbohydrates - the no1 killer

Introduction of industrialized carbohydrate based foods brought along the diseases that most people die from today: CVD and cancer. This is a collection of videos on this subject.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-oP34xXFWM


Thursday, July 28, 2011

100% Anal Method

Getting A (anal) is sometimes easy and sometimes really hard. Since its my b&b sex-wise, I have developed a whole system to ensure I can get it from all girls I meet, because if I cant, I simply lose interest. In short, a lay dont even feel complete to me until its done, and done in a way that ensures that the girl wants more of the same. Keep this in mind, or you will think that my method is horribly excessive.

STEP 1: Make her CRAVE sex very strongly.

Without this, you can totally forget getting A from a girl who had a bad experience with a former (retard) BF, and decided to never have A again. The tools for achieving this are outlined in my sex guide which can be found both in Archive and on ijjjji.blogspot.com. Its 100% required that you read it, so go do that now.

Okay great, now that you read and understand the basics of how to create sexual craving. This understanding is key, because rest of this is based on exact same principal.

STEP 2: Focus her sexual craving towards ASS specifically.

After making a girl crave sex and (optional) giving her some, make her relax on her belly in bed. If girl is lying on her back, pretend you want to spoon, but continue into more of a back rub where she ends up flat on her belly. If she is not too ticklish, aim for a feather light rub - not a heavy massage. start from hair/neck and run hands down to her lower back. Over and over again. A bit like stroking a cat. Pay attention to her reaction, as you do it slower.. and slower.. and slower. When you notice a slight TREMBLE in her body, especially as your hand stops near the top of her tail bone, YOU FOUND THE MAGIC TEMPO. Use this tempo only, as you follow the rest of this method.

Continue the same rub (and tempo) as if you will do this until the end of time. But do it soulfully, paying attention to her reactions, breathing on her neck etc. Notice that her ass starts to lift ever so slightly each time your hand comes to a halt on her lower back. Try to see if you can somehow respond to this by rubbing even slower at these moments. (At this point you can also try just rubbing her hair/neck for a short period. The whole idea of course being, to make the ass feel LEFT OUT.. ACHING for your touch.)

Sidenote.. a big clue to all of this is to NOT react when girl tries to make you escalate in one way or another. Keep doing the EXACT same for a while. Let her get a good TASTE of the feeling of ACHING FOR MORE.

So after a good while of girl pushing her ass up and/or twisting around a little or making soft sounds of sexual frustration, you lengthen the rubbing LITTLE by little, but more to the side/hip area. Again let her reactions be your guide. When you reach a bit down her thigh, keep doing it like that for a while.

In a similarly gradual way, transition to fully rubbing her buns. Use some creativity here, alternating between feather light and deep massaging. Very slow and deep massaging creates 'micro trembles' that travel up her ass, so this is highly useful IMO.

Next, mix in some rubs that AIM for her asshole but turn to the side before hitting it. Also massage the inside of her buns, again mixing light with really deep rubbing that totally spreads/opens her ass. Spreading her ass quite forcefully like this, PRIOR to even touching her asshole seems to be really great for focusing all that CRAVING exactly in her ass.

Sidenote.. picture a table with an even a layer of sand. With your hands you start scooping the sand towards the middle of the table creating a pile. This is what we are aiming to do to to the sexual craving here! If you pay attention, you can easily feel from her reaction if you are on track with this. If you are, you will get an increased tremble or similar reaction, whenever you touch new areas. (And if you dont, you didnt give it enough time or your tempo was off. Take a step back and do it properly.)

Along with spreading her ass to the point where it probably hurts a little, I also tend to start fist grabbing hair and holding her head firmly down at this point.. as a way of gradually increasing the 'brutality' since anal sex has a brutality component to it...

After (again) doing the same for a while (letting her really taste the craving), I like to simply place one hand on her asshole and hold it there while massaging it shortly, then go back to massaging and spreading her buns, again mixing in some hair pull etc etc in a loop until I sense the anal craving is getting far stronger than whatever inhibitions she had to begin with. You can easily gauge this by how much she pushes her ass out, as you massage her asshole.

Sidenote.. you probably havent done an STD test TOGETHER with this girl yet (You make her pee on a glass and go to a clinic together with her hand in both her and your urine sample asking for a full STD check.) so you are gonna wear a condom for the next part. This is tricky for two reasons. A: Getting it on without losing too much sexual momentum/craving. B: Lubrication is a much bigger issue when using condoms.. Solution is to get the condom on fast as lightning (feel free to practice putting it on with speed!!), and to take the time to re-kindle her craving a bit before progressing further..

Ok condom is on and you are mixing between massaging her buns and her ass hole, and she is again starting to go a bit spastic.. now, quickly scoop some juice from her pussy (which should be all soaked at this point), and rub it on her ass, increasing the pressure until you feel it starting to open slightly, but DO NOT INSERT YOUR FINGERS. Keep doing this some more and scoop some more juice if possible.

Next, gradually move on top of her without breaking the mixed massage. Mix in some hair grabbing etc, until you are on top of her. Now, gradually transition to massaging her asshole with your dick in the same way you did with your hand (NOT INSERTING), while one hand massages and spreads her buns, and the other holds her hair/head firmly in place. Add some neck and ear kissing.

Sidenote.. use the hand that massages her ass to keep your dick on her asshole. One method is placing one finger over and one under the hole so your dick doesnt slide up or down.

Most girls will actively try to self impale their ass on your dick at this point, and unless the girl is extremely inhibited, your dick will start going at least slightly into her ass from this mix of things. So just stay with it, focusing only on spreading and massaging her ass while keeping things intense and steamy, letting her do most of the movement required for actual penetration.

If zero progress, I do the following: Sort of suddenly grab her head and ass holding her still. Veeeeerrry gradually, increase the pressure against her ass hole. One of two things will happen. A: Her ass starts to open slightly. or B: Her ass tenses up and closes firmly. In case of A, just keep the pressure briefly, before returning to massaging, and repeat doing the hold + pressure thing now and then until getting a bit inside, and be satisfied with that for now. In case of B, transition to spooning and shower her a bit with kisses and kino while massaging her ass with your dick in a gentle way. Keep this 'cuddle' up for a long time, and do it as often as possible from now on (evenings, mornings and whenever you cuddle). Always make it really good for her and never show hint of frustration. In my experience it will take from 2-6 weeks of this before she starts gradually welcoming you more and more inside.

Whoa that got much longer than intended. Anyways, this is extensively field tested, and my thickness has been an issue in general with some girls, so Im not even sure most guys will need the 'trouble shooting' part at the end. IOW, it really works! Enjoy :D :D :D

Friday, February 11, 2011

Extract from Dualistic Plane vs. Unified Field article at www.unifying.com.

CHARACTERISTICS OF THE DUALISTIC PLANE:
Time
Judgement
Ego/Reputation/Fasade
Victim/Unforgiveness
L-thinking (logic): If, Don't, Either/or,
Expectation/Disappointment
-Good vs. bad
-Right vs. Wrong
-Hard vs. easy
-Success vs. failure (Outcome)
-Gain vs. Loss
-Confusion vs. Clarity
-Secure vs. Insecurity
-Happy vs. sad
-Hope vs. Hopeless
-Control vs. Helpless
-Lack vs. Abundance
-Satisfaction vs. Dissatisfaction (Greed, Envy, Jealousy)
-Stagnation vs. Flow
-Separation vs. Unity
-Boredom vs. Motivation (Goal)
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CHARACTERISTICS OF THE UNIFIED FIELD
R-thinking
Now
Bare, Naked, Direct, Undefended, Open, Intuition, Vision, Creation, Allowing, Embrace, experience, indulge, breathe, Vibrancy, Essence, Sense, Gratitude/Love (pure)
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Contrast the Unified Field with the characteristics of the Dualistic plane. Feel the difference in your body, in your emotions and in your mental energy field. Where do you want to vibrate?

The dualistic plane is where we have mostly learned to live and vibrate. We think and act from this vibration when we aren’t connected to the Unified Field. We vibrate in this dualistic/separate/competitive/fearful/controlling place when we forget and don’t choose the higher experience of what we are wanting. It is impossible to live from the dualistic plane and be fulfilled, happy, healthy and of true service. You/we must choose moment-to-moment as to where to think, act and vibrate.

Get quiet and ponder the impact of even reading and thinking about the characteristics of the dualistic plane vs. the characteristics of the Unified Field. Where and how do to do experience the difference? Scan your body. Notice how you breathe when reading each list. Where in your body do you tighten, where do you relax? Check out your emotions. What happens? Notice your mental energy field. What happens to your thoughts? Become acutely aware of how you uniquely respond.

Keep reminding yourself that when you vibrate in the dualistic plane that you are attracting more experiences and evidence that life is struggle, painful, and can’t be trusted.

Keep remembering to choose the Unified Field. In the choosing, you are opening the way to your natural inheritance (that has never left you). Keep doing your “yes” intentions and your gratitude's. By choosing thoughts that improve your vibration you are helping yourself to step into the Unified Field.
Learning How to Access the Unified Field

Goals Set in the Dualistic Plane vs. Goals Set in the Unified Plane:

Goals from this plane are usually in or about form. They seem easier for the ego/personality to accept. They are experienced as tangible and more able to control. They are of roles and beliefs. From this plane our five senses want to be able to Prove it” When we are abiding in this plane we are playing with concepts, vs. playing in the Unified Field with direct experience. We think we are creating apparent stability, however everything we move to, which we think will be “the answer” dissolves. We live with the feeling that we can’t protect enough and that something else out there will “get us”.

Look at the goals you have created. Are they in form (dualistic) or essence (Unified Field)? If they are in form, find the essence of why you are wanting the form. What higher essence is inviting you.

Example: Goal to get a job that pays $100,000 per year (form). Essence intention might be to find the perfect job that is fulfilling, creative, uplifting, on purpose, excites and thrills you, utilizes and expands your talents, is fun, filled with love and humor, and supplies abundance beyond your imaginings.

Can you see by taking the focus off the form, that your whole system (emotional, mental and physical bodies) can relax? Can you see by getting in touch with the essence of what you are wanting that you won’t then create a situation that may pay you $100,000 per year, and yet have you hating to face all the tasks, people, etc. on a daily basis. Can you see by listing your essence intentions that you build energy and allow the Universe/Unified Field to bring to you the perfect situation.

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ijjjji paraphrase:

Characteristics of THE UNIFIED FIELD:
-Experience is all.
-Now.
-Bare, Naked, Direct, Undefended, Open, Intuition, Vision, Creation, Allowing, Embrace, experience, indulge, breathe, Vibrancy, Essence, Sense, Gratitude/Love (pure)

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Characteristics of THE DUALISTIC PLANE:
-Time
-Judgement
-Ego/Reputation/Fasade
-Victim/Unforgiveness
-L-thinking (logic): If, Don't, Either/or,
-Expectation/Disappointment

Ecamples of judgemental duality:
-Good vs. bad
-Right vs. Wrong
-Hard vs. easy
-Success vs. failure (Outcome)
-Gain vs. Loss
-Confusion vs. Clarity
-Secure vs. Insecurity
-Happy vs. sad
-Hope vs. Hopeless
-Control vs. Helpless
-Lack vs. Abundance
-Satisfaction vs. Dissatisfaction (Greed, Envy, Jealousy)
-Stagnation vs. Flow
-Separation vs. Unity
-Boredom vs. Motivation (Goal)


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Reality exists only in the UNIFIED field.

In our brain, we add the TAINT of dualistic interpretation (good vs. bad) This is ALL mind concepts, and they all serve to distance us from TRULY EXPERIENCING the real life/world.

All this does is create stress and endless chase towards mind concepts that dont even exist (outcomes). For every 'value' you seek, you create an anti-value that will haunt you.

Learning to sense the world directly will put you into the unified field. Rather than putting labels like 'bliss' or 'orgasmic' on this state (which would be a return to the dualistic plane), I urge you to JUST experience the world in this way to understand, like described under 'UNIFIED FIELD' above.



GATA is also in the UNIFIED field??!!

Cos after the 'go' point, there is no longer any either/or BS, right?


And obviously, GWMethod is totally in the UNIFIED field, and its this that makes it effective.


While APPROACH is 100% in the DUALISTIC PLANE. (Together with many other things that we need to move away from: Value, style, structure etc)


Well I had a nice moment when a coworker was annoying the crap out of me with fast talk. By seeking the unified field I ended up ENJOYING the whole ordeal.


As you know, I have a whole method for seeking the UF when I run into girls I like. I forgot the name but its the one where you smile repeatedly and feel warm inside.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Insulin, Leptin, Diabetes, and Aging: Not So Strange Bedfellows
By Ron Rosedale, MD, Jan 13, 2008


To successfully treat any disease, one must know what disease to treat. Treating only a symptom of the disease will leave the underlying disease unchecked and possibly worse. For example, we evolved the "runny" nose to help us clean out upper respiratory infections. So taking a decongestant to eradicate the symptom of a "runny" nose is actually counterproductive for the underlying disease.

Symptoms are the way that evolution has taught us to deal with disease. What are normally called diseases - heart disease, diabetes, obesity, arthritis, osteoporosis, autoimmune diseases, arthritis and cancer - are all chronic symptoms of aging. The biology of aging is teaching us that aging itself, though not curable, is treatable.

If you are not treating aging, you are treating a symptom, and you do not know if the treatment will be worse than the "disease" that you are trying to treat. It matters very little if 10 studies show that a drug improves risk for heart disease if it also increases risk for cancer or other diseases of aging. What you really need to know is its effect on mortality rate and, therefore, aging.

Cultivating Longevity

Much of what we know about longevity is derived from studies of humans and animals who have broken the age barrier for their species. The longest lived flies may survive only a few days, mice a couple of years, and dogs for one or two decades, depending on their size. Humans currently have the potential to live at least 120 years, but few actually do. The average life expectancy today is around 80 years, which is impressive but nowhere near our full potential.

Growing in ranks, yet still few in number, are the exceptional group of people who live to be 100 years old and more. Scattered throughout the world, these centenarians are providing scientists with a living laboratory from which they can unravel the secrets of longevity. If we can figure out why these folks managed to live so long, we can use this information to extend the life span for everyone.

It would be easy to dismiss longevity merely as a function of luck, that is, simply a matter of winning the genetic lottery, but we know that this isn't exactly true. That's a good thing, for it means that we may be able to control our own destiny. We have been controlling the longevity destiny of laboratory animals for decades.

Laboratory animals put on calorie-restricted, nutritionally complete diets provide an equally rich source of information on longevity. Since the 1930s, dozens of species have been fed calorie-restricted diets, including microscopic tiny worms, assorted rodents, and more recently, rhesus monkeys - fellow primates that are closely related to humans. These animals virtually always live longer than normal - 30 to 300 percent. Assuming a "normal" human lifespan of 80 years, this would be the equivalent of a human living to be 104 to 240 years old.

Of Mice and Men

At first glance, human centenarians would appear to have very little in common with calorie-restricted animals. After all, humans can eat what they want when they want, and many centenarians did just that. There is no evidence that centenarians followed a particular diet or even had particularly healthy life styles. Some centenarians smoked, some did not; some exercised regularly, some did not; and some were careful eaters, and some ate whatever they felt like.

Despite the obvious differences, there are some striking similarities between caloric-restricted laboratory animals and free-living centenarians. Centenarians and calorie-restricted animals share a particular bio-metabolic profile that distinguishes them from their peers who die younger and sicker. We now know the common denominators that are found in almost all living beings - whether they are worms, mice, monkeys or humans - that defy the odds and live beyond their expected life span. In nearly every study, the longest lived animals share the following traits:

* Low fasting insulin levels
* Reduction in fasting glucose
* Lower body temperature
* Low percentage of body (visceral) fat
* Reduced thyroid levels
* Low triglycerides
* Low fasting leptin levels (Leptin is so new that it has only recently been measured in centenarians, but it has been measured in calorie-restricted animals. Since leptin correlates with and even controls these other biomarkers in humans, this is also probably true in centenarians.)

Why are these factors shared among long-lived individuals in all species? A very important finding of the various genome projects, including the human genome project, is just how similar our genes are to virtually all other animal species above bacteria. All of the important basic metabolic processes necessary for life are shared among nearly all species. That means that we have virtually the same genes as the ones that allow laboratory animals to live to twice their usual age or more.

The major differences among species, and particularly within a species, stem from which genes are allowed to be read, or "expressed," rather than from what genes are present. We have virtually all of the genes that a worm has, but we don't slither along the ground because we keep those worm genes under wraps, or "silenced." Many genes, however, can be turned on or off, and this mostly depends on their nutritional environment. Perhaps the most important of these genes regulate aging.

Virtually the same genes appear to regulate the factors that determine longevity in nearly all forms of life, including humans. Caloric-restricted animals may not have been born with the profile of longevity, but their diet enabled them to express the genes that recreate it. In other words, eating less has reprogrammed their genes to extend their lives.

You too can create a favorable genetic environment that is likely to not only extend your life, but help to keep you "disease"-free for as long as possible. You can actually make your body decades younger and turn back the clock to a time when you weren't weighed down with all that extra fat, or when you didn't have diabetes or heart disease...and you don't have to live in a cage on a caloric-restricted diet to do so.

Why We Age

Before we talk about how we age and the mechanisms that appear to control it, we should talk first about why we age. It takes energy to make babies - or in this case, new cells - lots of it. Throughout life's history, energy has been very precious and very limited. Just as you budget your bank account, every living thing must decide how its energy currency is to be spent.

The primary choice is between maintenance and repair, on one hand, or reproduction on the other. This is similar to the process of caring for your car. You must decide whether it is cheaper to keep repairing your car or whether it would be more economical to buy a new one. Furthermore, it makes no sense to waste energy making babies (new cells) when there's not enough energy available to be successful. You can't buy that new car if you can't pay for it.

Instead, it seems that virtually all living forms can "switch gears," actually switch genes, in times of food shortage. They can direct energy away from reproduction and toward mechanisms that will allow them to "hunker down" for the long haul and wait to reproduce at a future, more nutritionally opportune time.

In other words, nature will allow you to live longer to accomplish its primary directive of reproduction. It does this by turning on maintenance and repair genes. When you are in maintenance and repair mode, the body's "fix-it shop" is fully staffed and ready to go. Calorie-restricted animals and centenarians have measurably higher levels of key chemicals that extend life and promote repair, including antioxidants such as glutathione, catalase and SOD. These chemicals protect cells against damage inflicted by free radicals, which can accelerate aging and promote disease.

Calorie-restricted animals and centarians also have higher levels of very important proteins called heat shock proteins, which protect other vital proteins from being damaged and misshapen. Proteins communicate with other cells by "touch," much the same the way a blind person uses Braille. When a protein is misshapen, it will give bad instructions to other cells, which will interfere with the normal functioning of the body. The up-regulation of heat shock proteins is vital for a long, healthy life.

DNA repair is also bolstered. This all happens when you restrict calories in animals, and has been shown convincingly over 70 years of research to greatly extend their lifespan. Thus, there is a powerful link between energy stores, cell reproduction and longevity. One could guess that there must be signals that indicate energy stores and regulate the genetic expression of longevity genes.

One would be guessing right.

Our health and life depend on how accurately instructions are conveyed to our cells, so that they can act in harmony. It is the communication among the individual cells that determines our health and our life. The communication is carried out by hormones. Arguably therefore, the most important molecules in your body, the ones that ultimately decide your health and life, are hormones.

Many would say that genes and chromosomes are the most important molecules. Once you are born, however, your genes pretty much just sit there. Hormones tell them what to do, whether to act or not. Certainly, the most important message that our cells receive is how and what to do with energy, for metabolism and therefore life cannot take place without that. The two most important hormones that deliver messages about energy, and therefore control metabolism and aging, are insulin and leptin.

Two Critical Hormones

Metabolism can roughly be defined as the chemistry that turns food into life. Insulin and leptin, therefore, are critical to health and disease. Insulin and leptin work together to control the quality of metabolism (and, to a significant extent, the rate of metabolism).

Insulin works mostly at the individual cell level, telling the vast majority of cells whether to burn or store fat or sugar and whether to utilize that energy for maintenance and repair or reproduction. This is extremely important, because, at the individual cell level, turning on maintenance and repair equates to increased longevity. Turning up cellular reproduction, on the other hand, increases the risk of cancer.

Genetic studies in simple organisms have convincingly shown the link between energy stores, reproduction and aging to be at least partially mediated by insulin (which in simple organisms also functions as growth hormone) When insulin signals are kept low, indicating scarce energy availability, whether or not, in fact, energy is scarce, lifespan can be greatly extended.

Levels of insulin are largely determined by glucose (and amino acid from protein) levels. In many people with diabetes, insulin levels are also determined by how much insulin they are taking. Many have been told that what they eat does not matter as long as they take enough insulin to cover it.

This couldn't be further from the truth. Consider two people with equivalent blood sugar levels but who are taking different amounts of insulin. The person taking higher amounts of insulin will likely age faster and accumulate the "diseases" associated with aging, such as heart disease, obesity, and even diabetes itself. Yes, that person's diabetes will get worse. Why? Because most cases of type 2 diabetes are caused by overexposure to insulin.

Just as you become unable to smell the odor in a smelly room after having been there awhile, your cells become unable to "smell" the essential messages from insulin (and leptin) after they have been exposed to high levels of these hormones. Your body responds to this inadequate signalling either by producing higher levels of insulin and leptin or by requiring more to get the message across, contributing to a vicious cycle.

In short, low insulin is very healthy and good for you as long as its message is being heard. Most treatments for type 2 insulin-resistant diabetes, however, involve drugs that raise insulin or utilize injections of insulin itself. Treatment of type I diabetes also generally requires excessive quantities of insulin.

The tragic result is that conventional medical treatment for diabetes contributes to the manifest side effects and the shortened lifespan that people with diabetes experience. The major cause of poor results from conventional diabetes treatments is not that people with diabetes are inadequate students who simply need more education. The major problem is actually what is being taught, and this needs to be changed.

If you have lost the ability to smell an odor in a room, the best way to smell it is not to make the smell stronger (analogous to taking or making more insulin). What you should do is walk out of the room to re-sensitize your nose. When you walk back in, you can smell the odor well again, even if it has been reduced.

This is how diabetes needs to be treated. We need to reduce, not increase, the levels of insulin, so that your cells can "smell" it better. You need to reduce not just your blood sugar, but also your insulin, and the only way to do that is to get "more bang out of each insulin buck" by increasing insulin sensitivity. Contrary to what you have been told, there are no insulin sensitizing drugs. Only changing what you eat (combined perhaps with supplements that augment the dietary changes) can do this. Fortunately, changing diet does this very well, well enough to reverse most cases of type 2 diabetes completely.

Combating Glycation

Remember the laboratory changes seen in caloric-restricted diets. The longest-lived animals and people share the following traits:

* Reduction in fasting glucose
* Low fasting insulin levels
* Lower body temperature
* Low percentage of body (viceral) fat
* Reduced thyroid levels
* Low triglycerides
* Low leptin

Let's examine this further.

Your grandmother probably told you, "Sugar is bad for you," and she was absolutely correct. Why do the longest living humans and animals have low blood sugar levels for their age? First, high blood levels of sugar from nonfiber carbohydrates and excess protein send leptin levels soaring, causing leptin resistance and obesity. It's also well known that high glucose also raises insulin, and it's well documented in laboratory animals that high insulin accelerates aging. Glucose literally AGEs you.

In a process called glycation, glucose reacts with protein, resulting in sticky, sugar-damaged proteins called advanced glycated end products (AGEs). When protein is damaged, it cannot function properly or communicate properly with other cells. AGEs also promote inflammation and free radical oxidation throughout the body. AGEs cause skin to wrinkle, and wrinkling and damage to the lining of arteries contributes to plaque and heart attacks. It can promote the formation of cataracts, macular degeneration, and eventual blindness.

The glycation process has also been linked to the destruction of protein and nerve cells that can lead to Alzheimer's disease, memory loss and various neuropathies. Heating of starches (especially frying them, like french fries and chips) can produce a type of glycated protein called acrilamides, which are potent carcinogens.

Glycation, along with free radicals from oxidation, are two of the major molecular mechanisms whereby damage accrues, disease occurs and death results. A good analogy is making caramel, where you add sugar to cream - a form of glycation in which fat oxidizes and turns rancid. As we age, we "caramelize" and turn rancid. I prefer to minimize that.

High blood sugar can suppress your immune system, making you more vulnerable to infection and cancer. Glucose is very similar in molecular structure to vitamin C, confusing white blood cells and impairing their ability to gobble up invading bacteria, viruses and cancer cells. Highly aggressive cancers outpace the availability of oxygen and therefore use an anaerobic fuel - glucose. Elevating glucose just feeds this.

Insulin's Real Purpose

What about insulin? If there is a known single marker for life span, as they are finding in the centenarian and laboratory animal studies, it is low insulin levels. What is the purpose of insulin? It is not to lower blood sugar, as is believed by the general public and the medical profession alike. That is a relatively trivial side effect, as it is also the function of other hormones such as glucagon, epinephrine, cortisol and growth hormone.

Insulin's evolutionary purpose is to store excess energy for future times of need. It lowers blood glucose levels for the purpose of storing it away, not regulating it. Our ancestors were forced to survive for days, weeks, or even months on little food. High glucose was not a big problem back then! Insulin helped our ancestors store away nutrients for the proverbial rainy day when they would need it.

Today, high glucose is the norm, not the exception. As a result, our insulin levels are typically much higher than they were among our ancestors. When your cells are constantly bombarded with insulin, they become insulin resistant; that is, they stop hearing insulin's important message. Moreover, excess insulin can damage your cells. In fact, insulin resistance may be a defense mechanism on the part of cells to protect against the toxic effects of excess insulin and to keep glucose, and therefore glycation, inside cells and in check. High insulin creates a hormonal derangement that has a catastrophic effect on your metabolism.

High insulin contributes to making you fat. Why? Firstly, high insulin is telling your cells to store fat rather than burn it. More importantly, repeatedly high levels of insulin cause insulin resistance. This wouldn't be so bad if it were uniform, but the major problem, once again, is a loss in the orchestration of the signals. Not all cells become insulin-resistant at the same time.

A possible scenario follows. Liver cells may be among the first to become insulin resistant. Since one of insulin's effects is to suppress production of sugar by the liver, if the liver is no longer listening to insulin, it is going to make a lot of sugar. Eventually muscle cells will become insulin resistant too. Then they can't burn the sugar that was manufactured by the liver, so your blood sugar levels keep rising. Your fat cells are among the last to become insulin resistant, which is a real problem because insulin promotes the making and storage of fat. Thanks to insulin, all that excess sugar that hasn't been burned off is now socked away as fat!

Deranged Signaling

One could consider obesity to be the price one is paying to keep from becoming diabetic. Unfortunately, diabetes is still being defined by blood glucose and not by the derangement in hormone signaling that it should be. Eventually, your fat cells will become insulin resistant, and you can then stop making all that fat. But then you have no place to put the excess sugar and it starts building up in your blood, and you finally will be diagnosed with diabetes.

Incidentally, two of the most popular diabetic medications today, Actos and Avandia, wrongly claimed by their manufactures as being insulin sensitizers, actually work by multiplying fat cells, thereby creating more wastebaskets in which to store sugar as fat. They actually make you fatter and more leptin resistant, and they accelerate your rate of aging.

High insulin is a major contributor to cardiovascular disease. It results in the inability to properly store magnesium, causing blood vessels to constrict, elevated blood pressure, and coronary arterial spasm, all of which can result in a heart attack. Also, with low magnesium you can't properly metabolize important fatty acids such as EPA and DHA, which are vital to your heart and health in general.

Excess insulin causes retention of sodium, fluid retention, elevated blood pressure and congestive heart failure. Studies have shown that if you drip insulin into the artery of an animal, the artery will become blocked with plaque. Heart attacks are much more likely to happen after a high carbohydrate meal than after a high fat meal. The immediate effect of the rise in blood sugar after a high-carb meal is to raise insulin and leptin; that, in turn, triggers a "stress response" that can cause arterial spasm, constriction of the arteries, irregular heartbeat and even sudden death.

Elevated insulin plays an important role in osteoporosis. Insulin promotes the excretion of calcium in the urine. Much more importantly, if insulin is elevated and leptin resistance is telling your brain that you mustn't burn fat, then you have no choice but to burn sugar or foods that turn to sugar for fuel. Since we store very little sugar, you will crave it, and if you do not constantly eat it (such as when you are sleeping), then your body must break down lean mass, including muscle and bone, to supply its fuel needs.

This is a major source of osteoporosis and far exceeds in importance a lack of calcium in the vast majority of people. There is a high correlation between osteoporosis and calcification of arteries. In other words, most people with osteoporosis have the calcium - it's just in the wrong places. It is being given the wrong signals about where to go.

The Link to Cancer

In most species of calorie-restricted animals, life span increases primarily as a result of a reduction in cancer rates (cancer being the number-one killer in most animals). This is not surprising. Insulin is closely related to another hormone, IGF-1, or insulin-like growth factor. As its name implies, IGF's primary function is to promote growth and cellular reproduction. There is a strong link between IGF levels and cancer (which is basically excessive cellular reproduction).

Because of its molecular similarity to IGF, insulin can trigger the same genetic message, promoting cellular reproduction and cancer. IGF, derived from growth hormone, is normally low in calorie-restricted animals. Elegant studies have shown that bringing those IGF levels up to just average levels totally negates the benefits of caloric restriction on longevity.

Finally, and perhaps most significantly, the first, and perhaps the most powerful, genetic pathway that researchers (from the University of Colorado, Harvard, MIT, and the University of California) have been able to manipulate to greatly extend lifespan in many different species of laboratory animals is the insulin pathway. Genetically forcing insulin and its cousin, IGF, to remain low greatly extends lifespan.

As critical as insulin is to your health, leptin may even be more so. New research is revealing that glucose and therefore insulin levels may be largely determined by leptin. Leptin, through the brain and hypothalamus, also controls thyroid levels and body temperature. It largely determines the accumulation of visceral fat and the ability to burn fat as indicated by triglyceride levels. It appears to control all of the other markers of longevity.

It had been previously believed that the insulin sensitivity of muscle and fat tissues were the most important factor in determining whether one would become diabetic or not. Elegant new studies are showing that the brain and liver are most important in regulating a person's blood sugar levels especially in type 2 or insulin-resistant diabetes.

It should be noted again that leptin plays a vital role in regulating the brain's hypothalamic activity which in turn regulates much of a persons "autonomic" functions; those functions that you don't necessarily think about but which determines much of your life (and health) such as body temperature, heart rate, hunger, the stress response, fat burning or storage, reproductive behavior, and newly discovered roles in bone growth and blood sugar levels. Very recent study reveals leptin's importance in directly regulating how much sugar that the liver manufactures via gluconeogenesis mostly from muscle and bone.

Many chronic diseases are now linked to excess inflammation such as heart disease and diabetes. High leptin levels are very pro-inflammatory, and leptin also helps to mediate the manufacture of other very potent inflammatory chemicals from fat cells that also play a significant role in the progression of heart disease and diabetes. It has long been known that obesity greatly increased risk for many chronic diseases, including heart disease and diabetes, but no one really knew why. Leptin appears to be the missing link.

Leptin not only determines how much fat you have, but also where that fat is deposited. When you are leptin resistant, you put that fat mostly in your belly (your viscera), causing the so-called "apple shape" that is linked to disease. Some of that fat permeates the liver, impeding the liver's ability to listen to insulin and further hastening diabetes.

Leptin plays a far more important role in your health than, for instance, cholesterol, yet how many doctors measure leptin levels in their patients? How many know their own level, know that it can be easily measured, or even know what it would mean?

Leptin helps to control the brain areas that regulate thyroid levels and the sympathetic nervous system, which also has huge impacts on blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, osteoporosis, and aging. Leptin's stimulatory effect on the sympathetic nervous system also helps determine the adrenal stress response, including cortisol levels.

The Link to Aging

As we have seen, leptin plays a significant role in obesity, heart disease, osteoporosis, autoimmune diseases, inflammatory diseases and cancer. These are the so-called "chronic diseases of aging." Could it perhaps affect the rate of aging itself? Scientists who study the biology of aging are beginning to look at that question.

Remember, there are two endeavors, two drives, that life has been programmed since its inception to perform successfully: to eat and to reproduce. If every one of our ancestors had not succeeded in eating and reproducing, we would not be here. All of your morphological characteristics, from your hair to your toenails, are designed to help you succeed at those two activities. That is what nature wants us to do.

Nature's purpose is not necessarily to have you live a long and healthy life, but to pass on the instructions, the genes, that tell how to perpetuate life. Even so-called "paleolithic" diets, though undoubtedly far better than what is generally eaten today, were designed by nature not to help us live a long and healthy life, but to maximize reproductive success. Nature does not care much about what happens to us after we have had a sufficient chance to reproduce. That is why we die. But there are clues as to how to live a long and healthy life. And that brings us once again to fat - and leptin, and how to control it.

The primary signal that indicates how much fat is stored is leptin, and it is also leptin that allows for reproduction, or not. It has long been known that women with very little body fat, such as marathon runners, stop ovulating. There is not enough leptin being produced to permit it. In fact, leptin was recently approved as therapy to allow skinny women to reproduce.

Leptin is also instrumental in regulating body temperature, partly by controlling the rate of metabolism via its regulation of the thyroid. Metabolic rate and temperature have long been connected with longevity. Almost all mechanisms that extend lifespan in many different organisms result in lower temperature. Flowers are refrigerated at the florist to extend their lifespan. Restricting calories in animals also results in lower temperature, reduced thyroid levels, and longer life. It should be noted that reduced thyroid levels in this case are not synonymous with hypothyroidism. In the former, the body is choosing to lower thyroid hormones because it can, not because it has no choice.

Anything will dissolve faster in hot water than cold water. Extra heat dissolves, disrupts and disorganizes. It is commonly advised to "increase metabolism" and increase "thermogenesis" for health and weight loss. Yet how many of you would put a brand of gasoline in your car that was advertised to make your engine run hotter? What would that do to the life of your car? It is not an increase in metabolism that I am after; it is improved metabolic quality. That will be determined by the quality of your leptin signaling.

If it is poor, if you are insulin and leptin resistant, your metabolism is unhealthy and high in what I call "metabolic friction." If you then increase its rate, you will likely accelerate your demise. To increase the quality of your metabolism, you must be able to properly listen to insulin and especially to leptin. If your fasting blood serum level of leptin is elevated, you are likely leptin-resistant and you will not be healthy unless you correct it.

The Source of Resistance

How do people become leptin resistant? This is the subject of much research. I believe that people become leptin resistant by the same general mechanism that people become insulin resistant; by overexposure to high levels of the hormone. High blood glucose levels cause repeated surges in insulin, and this causes cells to become "insulin-resistant," which leads to further high levels of insulin and diabetes. It is much the same as being in a smelly room for a period of time. Soon, you stop being able to smell it because the signal no longer gets through.

I believe the same happens with leptin. It has been shown that as sugar gets metabolized in fat cells, fat releases surges of leptin. Those surges result in leptin-resistance, just as insulin over-exposure results in insulin-resistance. Insulin resistance leads to high glucose that then contributes to high leptin and leptin resistance, and they both conspire to make you fat and accelerate your rate of aging.

Normally leptin's function is to reduce appetite and induce fat burning (among many other functions). That is what high leptin signaling in a brain does. Low leptin in the brain is an indication to eat more and store more fat (that is, to successfully reproduce, and to live long enough to do so). However, elevated leptin in a fasting blood sample indicates leptin resistance and, probably, low leptin signaling to some parts of the brain while other parts of the brain get the full high signal. In other words, some of the brain hears only a whisper, while other parts (of the brain and periphery) get screamed at. Neither is good communication.

Low-leptin signaling to the appetite center of the brain induces the brain to want to make the body hungry, and it alters physiologic functions so as to store more fat. Ultimately, increasing fat stores should manufacture more leptin to overcome the resistance. In the meantime, however, one continues to get fat and often obese. This is similar to insulin resistance: High fasting insulin indicates low activity in some parts of the body and a disruption in insulin signaling that is being compensated for by the pancreas, which makes more insulin. What is lost, however, is the orchestration of insulin levels among various tissues. If your liver is insulin-resistant, it continues to make sugar out of protein, and if your muscles are insulin-resistant, they cannot burn that sugar.

Until your fat tissue becomes insulin-resistant, however, it continues to "hear" the high levels of insulin that are caused by the elevated sugar. Insulin's signal to fat tissue is to take that sugar, make fat out of it, and then store it. You continue to gain weight until the adipose tissue ultimately becomes resistant.

Likewise, when you become leptin-resistant as indicated by high fasting leptin, you lose the fine orchestration of hormone levels. As the appetite control center in the hypothalamus becomes leptin resistant, it cannot hear the message from leptin to curb hunger and stop storing fat. It believes, therefore, that you do not have enough fat stores and must eat more and make more fat. Also lost is the knowledge of where to put that fat, so a preponderance of it is stored in the viscera. The communication regarding where to put calcium is also disrupted, and calcium is deposited in blood vessels instead of bone.

An Orchestral Breakdown

However, it appears that the master control center of the sympathetic nervous system in the brain does not become resistant, and it continues to hear the loud messages of elevated leptin, causing overstimulation of the sympathetic nervous system. This can cause diabetes, elevated blood pressure, increases in blood coagulation and inflammation, elevated T-3 and temperature, and heart disease. Hormonal resistance is bad mainly because of the loss of the intricate orchestration of those signals, and less so because of diminished signals that can be compensated for just by "yelling louder."

Leptin resistance plays an important role in osteoporosis. If leptin is telling your brain that you mustn't burn fat, you will have no choice but to burn sugar or foods that turn to sugar for fuel. Since we store very little sugar, you will crave it, and if you do not constantly eat it (such as when you are sleeping) then your body must break down muscle and bone matrix to supply its fuel needs. This is a major source of osteoporosis and far exceeds in importance a lack of calcium in most people. There is a high correlation between osteoporosis and calcification of arteries. In other words, most people with osteoporosis have the calcium - it's just in the wrong places. It's being given the wrong signals about where to go. Taking more calcium may then not be wise.

To summarize: normally leptin is secreted acutely in response to a meal or chronically in response to increasing fat stores. In a leptin-sensitive individual, leptin will reduce hunger, increase fat burning, and reduce fat storage. However, when one is leptin-resistant, as indicated by an elevation in fasting serum leptin, the part of leptin's message that would normally reduce hunger and fat stores, and increase fat burning does not get through to the brain (mimicking low leptin), so one stays hungry and stores more fat rather than burning it. However the message to increase sympathetic nervous system activity gets through all too loudly and clearly, so one stays hungry, continues to get fat, and gets elevated sugar, insulin resistance, high blood pressure, heart disease, and accelerated aging.

How to Restore Order

When one becomes more leptin sensitive after following my diet program, as indicated by a lower fasting leptin, suddenly the brain is able to hear leptin's messages much more clearly. The now louder and more accurate message to the appetite control center and other parts of the hypothalamus is to reduce hunger and get rid of stored fat, because now the brain realizes that you have stored far too much. The lower leptin reduces the volume that the sympathetic nervous system hears. The hormone is making less "noise," but instead is allowing the orchestra to play fine music.

The only known way to re-establish proper leptin (and insulin) signaling is to prevent those surges, and the only known way to do that is via diet and supplements. As such, these can have a more profound effect on your health than any other known modality of medical treatment. When leptin signaling is restored, your brain can finally hear the message that perhaps should have been delivered decades ago. High leptin levels can now scream to and be heard by your brain that you have too much fat and that you better start burning some off, for your life is in danger.

Your brain will finally allow you into the pantry where you have been storing your fat. Your cells will be fed the food from that fat and they will be satisfied. They will not know whether that food came from your belly fat or from your mouth, nor will they care. They will be receiving energy that they need and will not have to ask for more. You will not be hungry. This also makes counting calories irrelevant, for the calories that you put into your mouth today are not necessarily what your cells will be eating: That will be determined primarily by leptin.

Whether or not you put food into your mouth, your cells will be eating. If they cannot eat fat, they must eat sugar. Since little sugar is stored, that sugar will be obtained by making you crave it or by turning the protein in your muscle and bone into sugar. This contributes in a major way to weakness and osteoporosis. Whether or not this lean tissue wasting happens is determined by your capacity, or incapacity, to burn fat. And that is determined by your ability to listen to leptin.

A strategic diet that emphasizes good fats and avoids blood sugar spikes coupled with targeted supplements (as recommended in my Rosedale Diet), will enhance insulin and leptin sensitivity so that you can once again hear their music, allowing your life to be the symphony it was meant to be.


(Ron Rosedale, M.D., is an internationally renowned expert in nutritional and metabolic medicine and a specialist in the biology of aging. Dr. Rosedale has helped thousands suffering from so-called incurable diseases regain their health. He is the author of the recent books, The Rosedale Diet, and Insulin and its Metabolic Effects. He is currently chief medical officer at Advanced Metabolic Laboratories in collaboration with the University of Colorado and lives in Denver, CO.)

(Article source: http://www.diabeteshealth.com/read/2008/01/13/5617/insulin-leptin-diabetes-and-aging-not-so-strange-bedfellows/)
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Sunday, August 08, 2010



Seductive Strategies

._.-=-. Warning .-=-._.
Like all animals, humans have a biological programming deep inside, of how to be/act perfectly seductive. Only requirement is relaxing body and mind. Trying to remember a lot of things can add stress, and thus ruin this process. Consequently, its better to aim to use very few strategies, than trying to learn many at once.

._.-=-. Conversation .-=-._.
Unrelaxed vibes makes conversations horribly uncomfortable for both. Two simple things that can allow you to relax and enjoy the conversation is:
-aim for good posture.
-take a long second to think before talking/responding.

When the person starts asking about you, practice this little fun routine:
1) be secretive by saying "Guess".
2) dodge with joke answers (see list further down).
3) break yourself off in middle of telling.
4) try _obviously_ to change the subject.

When the person starts smiling a lot, try this:
1) Lean in and smell and say "You smell good." Stroke arm lightly.
2) Silently move closer and continue stroking arms, back, hair etc etc..

If people talk a lot instead of letting romantic vibe happen, try just letting them talk without saying anything. Use same if they say something you dont like. Dont judge though. People say stupid things when they feel under pressure. Its not because they are like that normally.

Whenever you feel a strong romantic vibe, you should say something like "Wow Im starving. What food do you got at home?"

Everyone cant be available. When vibes go dull/bad, never show frustration. Instead you say "Ok, nice meeting you!" with warm smile, as you move on to talk to others.

._.-=-. Verbal pokes .-=-._.
"Wow this looks nice on you!"
"Wow you look happy!"
"So nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!"
"What a nice fabric!" (grab/touch a piece of her clothes)
"Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly)
"Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?"
"My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
"You are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!"
(Bump so almost falls, then) "Are you drunk?"
"You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
"Wow.. you look just like.. a little princess!"

._.-=-. Mock answers .-=-._.
"Guess!"
"I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
"I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!"
"I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
"I'm a traveling underwear inspector!"
"I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
"You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"
"I have to tell you this.. No.. I cant.."
"I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?"
"Im shy."

._.-=-. Touch .-=-._.
-run hands down arms into palms and squeeze
-rub and leave hand on lower back
-stretch legs on lap
-push hair out of face and move slowly down to fondle earlobes
-breath on face/neck
-touch head/neck/hair
-smell slow along neck

._.-=-. Kiss .-=-._.
-run fingers up back and neck, and make light fist with her hair - tighten as makeout progresses
-move lips near hers.. when she goes in, back up repeatedly until she frustrated, then grab and kiss her HARD
-put lips gently against ear and rotate tongue slowly around ear opening - move it down to ear lobe - stick it very gently into her ear canal
-let kissing trail her chin and neck down to her chest and up again
-nibble her chin, neck and ear lobes

._.-=-. Sex .-=-._.
-Don't undress girls. Start rubbing and dry-humping instead.
-Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
-When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
-When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
-When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
-When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.

Friday, April 02, 2010

Gym Lessons

- safety -

Read and watch instructional videos online prior to testing any exercise in the gym. Use only light weights and high reps for the first month with a new exercise. Focus on getting form 110% correct, before thinking about adding weight. Pay attention to body signals, making sure the exercise doesnt give you ANY pains except muscle soreness. Never train a sore muscle directly. Never train with joint/skeletal pain. Never train with fatigue or headache.

General fatigue and persistent pains/aches means your body cant fully recover from your workouts. You MUST take a break from training when this occurs. When you start training again, you must increase the NUTRITION TO EXERCISE RATIO, and pay extra attention that you avoid those symptoms.

Train your back more than anything else. Modern lifestyle creates an imbalance where legs and front side become strong compared to back. This means that from the start, you are probably strong enough OVERALL, to move a weight that is DANGEROUSLY heavy for your back to carry.

- growth -

Most people seem to underestimate the sheer force/tension it takes to make muscle fibers grow larger. The dilemma when starting out is that you are generally not strong enough to lift the type of weights required to generate this type of force on your muscle fibers. (Lots of people have reported that it took many years before they started growing, but when it finally started, they grew quite fast.) After gaining some strength, you probably still lack the strength to lift those weights SAFELY, and your muscles have sort of reached their strength potential for their CURRENT size. This is a PLATEAU where many people stay a LONG time. It can lead to frustration and desire to try UNSAFE tactics and like lifting too heavy or too high volume, while ignoring the important safety principals above. From my experience, there are only two things that really improves this situation.

The first is food. Scientific tests has shown that weight gain from over eating is minimum 30% muscle mass. This % goes up with weight training. However, if the the weight gain is rapid, a significant portion will always be fat. So, you can decide how much hurry you are in getting away from the size/strength plateau I mentioned above. If you are willing to put on some body fat (AND increase your cardiovascular disease risk factors) you can quite quickly escape this plateau by eating a lot of EASILY DIGESTIBLE high calorie foods. I did this myself, and I was a huge fan of it at the time. My weight increased 15% in 6 months and I got a LOT stronger, but the doctor started complaining about my blood pressure, and girls started to seem less interested in me. And while losing half the gained weight was super easy over a 3 month period, the rest was really hard work that took me nearly a year. In retrospect, I should probably have tested my 'dieting skills' FIRST, and then done a slower more controlled weight gain.

The second is 'safe cheating'. By this, I mean finding RELATIVELY SAFE ways of putting your muscles under the tension of weights you cant lift in 'regular fashion'. The two main ways of doing this are STATIC HOLDS and NEGATIVES. An example of a negative, is starting with reverse grip HANG CLEAN, and then slowly lowering the bar for a negative bicep curl. There is also the LESS SAFE method of 'bouncing', where you use the 'elastic band energy' stored in the tendons on the way down, to get the weight out of the bottom position. Mark Rippetoe advocates using this whenever squatting, and also for barbell bicep curls (starting at the top).

- be skeptical -

The overall quality of advice has improved since everyones mother started reading on the internet. Even so, bad/dangerous advice is still out there, in the gyms, in the magazines, in forums and in online articles. Especially regarding the consumables that people earn money on (whey, supplements, steroids).. so be aware. Dont trust anything until you find multiple trustworthy references.

Thursday, January 07, 2010

Baby cream fixes my skin issues

My 'toughest' skin issue, among several: My left foot has had athletes foot all over it for 10 years. I managed to clear it 100% (even nail infections) with daily vinegar+salt foot bath followed by tea tree oil, but the constant use of vinegar made my heel skin so weak that it constantly cracked badly (blood/pain)... a few months after quitting, a.foot crept back, so Ive been keeping it somewhat in 'check' with oils and occasional rubbing with alcohol ever since, but it gets really bad as soon as I forget.

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I already take zinc to boost health and testosterone. My zinc pills make feel sick to my stomach for 30 min, so was looking for cream that could deliver zinc through my skin. My first zinc cream was 100% oil based and USELESS. Didnt absorb into skin at all. So I was looking for a new one when I found a WATER based one (20% zinc) from a Baby Care series. It was cheaper and they had it in my food store (old one was drugstore only). It seemed to work GREAT, absorbing into skin and staying there for up to 1 week. It even seemed to make the skin much smoother after some weeks.

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So I started testing this water based 20% zinc baby cream on some trouble areas..
-tested it on a month-old itchy rash on my arm-pit and it cleared in 4 days.
-cleared persistent red scaly spots on my scalp in 4 days.
-fixed red scaly spots on nose wings and eye brow in same fashion.
-clears any minor redness in beard region in 2 days.

So, some weeks ago I got an idea. I put it all over my foot, and quit my other foot treatment. I re-applied once a week (the zinc sticks so well to dry/scaly skin) and observed:
-scaling of skin has stopped.
-zero smell anywhere on foot.
-skin feels more like though leather than crisp bacon (before).
-heel cracks nearly gone and not causing pain.
-nail infections seem to clear up.. have to wait for some nail growth to conclude on this one though.

3 days ago I started testing it on some KP (bumpy skin w/ingrown hairs) at the back of my arms:
-Just checked in mirror and it looks MUCH better already.
-Seems like the zinc powder makes humps become dry and fall off.

On scalp and nose wings, the redness starts creeping back after ca 2 weeks if I do zero upkeep.. so I use tiny (near invisible) amounts of the cream once pr week.

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QC & H.S.E. info:

There is a minor side effect. Skin gets really WHITE and dry looking when the cream is on. I can instantly remove this whiteness by rubbing some olive oil on skin. I only do this when going out to meet new girls though.

The various testing above started 8 months ago. I have seen ZERO negative side effects (other than the whiteness) in this period. Not even pimples, which is strange with the zinc powder filling up the pores.

I intentionally waited with this post because I felt this thing deserved a proper thorough presentation.

I used the same water based 20% zinc baby cream for all this. Product content info:
-Aqua (key!! the non-water based one was crap!)
-Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride
-Zinc Oxide
-Ethyl Hexyl Stearate
-Sorbitan Isostearate
-Zinc Stearate
-Polyglyceryl-3 Diisostearate
-Hydrogenated castor oil
-Glycerin
-Magnesium Sulfate
-Lactic Acid
-Sodium Hydroxide
(Source: http://derma.dk/produkter/produktblad.php?pid=7)

Friday, September 05, 2008

Anabolic lifestyle


Sunday, March 09, 2008

Subject: i-guide to easy club sex (3/9/08)

Forget idea that you need to be super hot/good to get sex in club. I used to think like that, and its completely misguided. This method is relatively easy! The steps:

-¤- Dance w/girl.
-¤- Get erection (pointing downwards, prevented by jeans).
-¤- Allow it to rub/grace her lightly when near, but never push it against her.
-¤- Get/dance behind her (dick gracing her ass slightly with each dance move).
-¤- Stroke down her arm and start kinoing your own hip with her hand (holding it).
-¤- Move her hand around casually, going also very near dick, but never touching it.
-¤- When she tries to casually kino closer to dick (they always do this), guide her hand so it moves up and down NEXT TO your dick, still not really touching it. (At this point, they automatically push ass against you and twist neck to get lips closer to yours.)
-¤- Move hand slowly up her arm (the hand that was guiding her hand). Grab her hair and bite her neck or similar, as her now 'free' hand starts rubbing directly on your dick. (They do it automatically.)
-¤- Take her hand (away from dick) "Lets go over here." then "I have to go pee." when near toilets, and just drag her along. (Do NOT ask her to join you.)
-¤- Start making out AT ONCE inside toilet and repeat the 'guided kino' steps from above, but faster tempo. At point where her hand starts homing in, stretch a little and guide her hand to gap between jeans and shirt. Your erection should still point downwards so there is an area where her hand can rub your skin without touching dick too much. NB! NEAR-dick-kino is super important for this entire method. Do not ignore or hurry past it! Make her do it until she tries kinda strongly to reach your dick.
-¤- Let her touch your dick a few seconds then remove her hand and start kissing her neck strongly, moving briefly down to her chest now and then. NB! Fixate her head with hair grip, and alternate between 'tender' and more 'rough' moments in this makeout. (Absolute must for enabling next step.)
-¤- while making out and holding her hair firmly with one hand, grab/guide her hip with the other and make her sit down on toilet seat, bending with her so you can kiss her mouth until she is seated. Then straighten up while guiding her mouth towards your dick. All this, kinda fluidly in 'one move'.

DO NOT worry about remembering every detail. I put them in to make it easier for you to visualize/see what is important:
A) your dick
B) creating a field of tension/attraction between dick and girl
C) releasing that tension briefly at right moments
D) being 'in control' at those moments (dominance)


A later re-write:




My Technique for Toilet Quickie (Vaccuum, Dancefloor)
05-25-2013, 08:50 AM
1) Dance with a girl (duh).

2) Get erection (pointing downwards) and rub it only lightly on her now and then. No pushing.

3) Move behind her and hold/rub her left hand on your hip. Move it near, but not touching erection. When you feel her trying to touch it, only let her rub very near.

4) When she is at melting point from this teasing, grab her hair and bite her neck/lick her ear or similar, as her now 'free' hand starts rubbing directly on your dick. (Will happen automatically.)

5) Take her hand again and pull her "Lets go over here" then "I have to go pee." when near toilets, and just drag her into toilet. (Do it FLUIDLY like this.)

6) Make out and guide her hand like before but inside pants, and proceed quickly to sex when she tries to grab/pull your dick.


Sequence in brief: Dance > tease > heavy > pull

(Yes, its EASY this way. You might need to practice the tease-part one or two times before you get the feel for it. But after that, this becomes rather easy to do. Much easier than 'navigating a conversation' for sure! So newbies should try it. And yes, I've posted this technique many times over the years! And I still use it!)